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Posted: 1/23/2009 - 5 comment(s) [ Comment ] - 93 trackback(s) [ Trackback ]

 

I live between the Dominican Republic and Canada and right now I am in Canada working and to be completely honest, the frigid and greyalt weather is really getting to me!
 
So, when my partner (who is in the Dominican) told me that he was going to the beach today, I broke out in tears! I wanted to go to the beach today too :)
 
I knew my response was ridiculous and childish - so almost immediately, amidst my tears, I started to laugh and laugh. I had a real belly laugh and WOW did it feel great! Little did I know the many benefits of laughter: reduced stress, boosting of the immune system and even is a form of exercise of your internal organs! From the same article, according to German Psychologist - Michael Titze, "In the 1950's people used to laugh 18 minutes a-day; but today we laugh not more than 6 minutes per day despite the huge increase in the standard of living." AND children laugh 300 to 400 times a day, but adults do not laugh more that fifteen times a day. What?!?! So, it is obvious we need to lighten up and laugh more. If you love dogs, like I do, this picture will really crack you up! :)
 
Wishing you a wonderful Belly Laughing Day!! Kelly McIntyre M.Sc.
 
Posted: 1/14/2009 - 2 comment(s) [ Comment ] - 0 trackback(s) [ Trackback ]

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"Women need real moments of solitude and self-reflection to balance out how much of ourselves we give away." -- Barbara De Angelis
 
We all know that the better you look after yourself the more energy you have to share with others, so how do we balance all of the roles and responsibilities? Here are brief tips on how to create work/life balance:

 

 
1. Be in the moment: Avoid thinking of what you have to do or need to do by giving 100% of your attention to the moment. Create to-do lists and clear your mind through deep breathing so that you can focus in the moment.
2. Clarify Expectations: Ask your family what they need from you – you may be surprised and be placing unrealistic and even untrue demands on yourself. Ask for objective feedback from your manager or review your job description to clarify that you are working on task and within or exceeding the expectations at work.
3. Create Intentions: Focus your behaviour be clarifying what it is that you are trying to create or achieve each day.
4. Get clear on how you spend your time: Write out a list of activities in typical and ideal day and week and then compare. Make a list of things that bring positive energy into your life and a list of things that take energy away from you. Prioritize and develop a new schedule based on the outcome of this comparson.
 
 
5. Pencil yourself in with some YOU time. By making yourself a priority will send out the message to yourself and others that your time is important. And don't be too hard on yourself if this takes a while, have fun with it and it will become easier :)
 
 
 
6. Establish Boundaries: Talk with your family about your work and explain what you need. If necessary, talk with your manager and review your job. Consider accessing employee assistance programs or if you could create something to assist in solving the work/life balance issue in your workplace. You are likely not alone..  
 
Other options: consider reducing your workload by researching whether job sharing, flex time or part time work is available or soliciting help from friends, family or hire help for home issues.
 
 
 
"Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perfomr better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance." -- Brian Tracy

Best wishes to you today!

Kelly McIntyre M.Sc.

http://www.transitioncounselling.com/

Posted: 1/7/2009 - 4 comment(s) [ Comment ] - 0 trackback(s) [ Trackback ]

 

 
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"When you find peace within yourself, you become the kind of person who can live at peace with others." --Peace Pilgrim
Wow! I don't know about you but every time I read something in a magazine or paper or tune into the news, the message I keep hearing is that I need to eat better, take a course, exercise more, be happy... While I absolutely agree and am completely passionate about people developing their potential and aligning with their ideal lives, I think there is a step that has to happen before the change process can really stick.
In order for change to be meaningful and truly transforming you need to get quiet and listen to what you really need or want. Surrendering to the circumstances in your life, accepting, getting honest and really embracing your life exactly as it is, is where I think the change process really begins and continues.
You may only have brief moments of insight but there is something so peaceful about embracing exactly where you are in this moment.  
While you keep an eye on what your goals are, making choices aligned with how you want to express yourself ideally in the world, instead of fighting with yourself about what isn't, ask yourself what is?  
* What is going well in your life? * What do you love? * Who do you love? * What is going on in your life that brings you joy?  
I have considered these questions personally, and in the spirit of aligning with your ideal life and that which brings happiness and joy (and love of hot weather!), I have amended the length of the Follow Your Heart Goals group from 6 weeks to 4 and am heading back early to my home in the sunny south.
I look forward and am excited about connecting with those of you who are participating in the workshop beginning next week and to those who are still on the fence, space is still available - contact me soon for more information. Wishing you a wonderful and peaceful day today!
 
I hope that you enjoy the quotes:  
"There is a calmness to a life lived in gratitude, a quiet joy." --Ralph H. Blum
 
"Peace is its own reward." -- Mahatma Gandhi
 
With love, Kelly
Posted: 1/5/2009 - 5 comment(s) [ Comment ] - 0 trackback(s) [ Trackback ]

 

 
Hi All! First off ~ Happy New Year! The holidays are over; the tree and decorations have been packed away leaving a strange empty feeling in the house. All of the cookies, chocolates, dips, cheeses, breads have all been eaten. I don't know about you but I am ready to get back to my routine! Anyone identify? A group is exactly what we need sometimes to stay motivated and challenge us to make some changes. Does your life really reflect your values and beliefs or your personality? What can we do to align with our ideal life? These are big questions but necessary ones in letting go and moving on. I am excited about how many people have signed up for this group and I look forward to working with each of you in creating more of what you want in your life! In order to complete your registration, please visit http://www.transitioncounselling.com/group.html for further information and then email me the group you are planning to attend. I will then email you your own copy for free of the eworkbook called Helping You Follow Your Heart - 7 Steps to Align with your Ideal Life. The Crane's Bill in Leamington – Mondays – Jan.12 – Feb. 2 from 7:00 – 8:30pm ESTUnit 9 beside the Downtown Yoga Studio in Windsor – Tuesdays – Jan. 13 – Feb. 3 from 7:00 – 8:30pm ESTSkype - Online – Tuesdays – Jan. 13 – Feb. 3 from 12:00 noon – 1:30pm EST Please note, that if you are interested in participating in an online group but are not available on Tuesday lunchtime, if enough people register I may offer another online group on Thursday evenings, just let me know. Enjoy! Kelly :)